Em had a test the other day in Language Arts. She was having some problem understanding some of the material, so she asked the teacher for clarification. The teacher told her that she had it right. She takes the test, is graded, and got a 69%. A D+.
One of the problems she got wrong was a simple error- a fill in the circle which she did correctly, but wrote the incorrect letter on the line. She pointed it out to the teacher, who responded with a 'I have to count it as wrong' tough luck response.
The other question she got wrong was the exact thing she asked the teacher about, who told her she was right in her thinking... marked it as completely wrong.
Emma is beyond upset. Since the beginning of the year, she pulled up her grades and every test was 100% or 95%, and then she has this 69%. She's mad that it's going to give her a B at best, but even more mad that she was THATCLOSE to failing the test altogether. She doesn't understand what she did wrong.
I asked her to talk to the teacher, to see if there is any way that she can make it up with extra credit or re-do it, but she won't. It's too embarrasing, and she will get emotional and cry and everyone will know her business. I asked her if she wants me to talk to the teacher, but she says that's even more embarrasing. But she also doesn't want to accept the grade either.
I don't know what to do!
I did tell her that one bad grade isn't the end of the world, and that I am still so proud of her. That she isn't in trouble for getting a bad grade, and that I'm glad she was up front about it. I always ask after they get something wrong if they understand what they did incorrectly-to me that is far more important than the actual grade. It means they are learning from their mistakes. She doesn't understand what she did wrong, nor does she feel like the teacher will tell her after she had approached her before the test and got incorrect imformation.
What would you do? Would you talk to the teacher anyway? Would you let your child handle it how she wants to?
Thanks for listening!